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I cannot believe that yesterday, October 28, 2007 is 6 months from the day that I married my beautiful wife, Hui-chen. As you know, I didn’t really write an article on our marriage. I did write a small blurb and at that time was content to let Michael Turton’s post tell the story. Here are some of the considerations that stopped me from writing an article at that time:
- Less than 2 weeks after our marriage, I photographed 5371 just before it crashed. We had to deal with the unexpected attention and disruption to our lives. That situation lasted for well over a month, including representatives of the families and others contacting us for copies of the photos, and our own civilian investigation.
- We moved into a new house and it took a few weeks to get everything organized.
- We took on some new business aspects that created more work for us.
- My health problems that became an issue shortly after we were married (and also interfered with #2).
Naturally, we were worn out from the wedding itself, and then moving into the new house. Right after that, the 5371 incident prevented me from working on an article about our wedding. The timing just wasn’t right.
Not writing my own article about our wedding and how I felt on that day is something that I have come to regret a great deal. So, on this 6 month anniversary of our wedding, I have decided to write an article from my perspective on the most amazing day of my life.
Credits: The vast majority of these photographs were taken by Mr. Michael Turton. It was a great relief to not have to worry about the photography. When one of my sisters got married, the photographer made a mistake in the darkroom during processing and all of her photos were lost. At my other sister’s son’s wedding recently, the hired photographer didn’t do as well as expected and the photos were disappointing. Poor wedding photos cause continued disappointment into the future as well. Fortunately Michael was there for us and we very much appreciate his help. Hui-chen’s sister Ping-chen was another huge help to us. She was there at every possible moment, lending a hand.
I’m not a young guy. Hui-chen’s family would probably have preferred her to marry a younger man, quite frankly. I give her family a lot of credit for accepting me as I am, but like a lot of things in Chinese society, it’s not about what you say, it’s about what you do. They all have seen how I treat her with love and respect and those are the most important qualities for a potential Groom to possess. Nevertheless we did fall in love and decide to get married with the full support and cooperation of her family. I have heard about marriages in Taiwan where the family did not accept the foreign husband, to the point of not even attending the wedding or communicating with him afterwards. That is such a shame and both families suffer in such cases. I am indeed fortunate to have joined such a wonderful family. After our wedding, Hui-chen’s father gave me permission to take his family name as mine. Her mother gave me a Chinese name and that has become my official name in Taiwan. I am very happy to bear this name.
Lastly I want to mention that I thought I should color my hair so I looked younger at the ceremony and in the photos. I’m not ashamed of how I look or who I am – on the contrary, I’m very comfortable being the “old guy who knows how to do stuff” in most situations. I thought that I would show face to Hui-chen’s family by altering my appearance so that in the future the photos would look different. Again, speaking frankly, at 51, my appearance does not alter very much over the span of 4 or 5 years. My hair was already gray (I stated going gray in High School) so if I hadn’t colored my hair and someone were to look at our photos in 5 years from now, I would look pretty much the same now as then. In the case of our wedding photos, sure, everyone knows I colored my hair but according to the comments I’ve received, most people think it looked good and I have the benefit of “aging” as time goes forward. Hui-chen’s father also colored his hair, but he looks great all the time anyway.
Our Wedding Day
April 28, 2007 was the most amazing day of my life. The family of this beautiful woman gave her to me in marriage. I look at her and I still can’t believe she is really mine. This is the story from the beginning of that day, with new photos that haven’t been published until now.